By Dr. Kim Logan-Nowlin & Arthur E. Nowlin, LMSW, CAADC
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This article was written by Dr. Kim Logan-Nowlin for Marriage.com
Do you find it difficult making a long-distance relationship work? Do you feel that a ‘successful long-distance relationship is a myth?
Well, you can keep a long-distance relationship going if you have the will to do it. Here’s a long-distance success story to motivate you to trust in your relationship and make it a success despite the distance.
The story of Andrew and Cindy
Andrew and Cindy were good friends through high school and remained friends in college. The couple had been dating for three years and realized that their friendship had developed into a romantic relationship.
They trusted one another because they had a past relationship of being good friends. The couple both enjoyed living in Detroit, Michigan, and were very accomplished in their careers.
Cindy got a lucrative job offer
Andrew was an investment broker, and Cindy was an attorney. They two wanted to marry and start a family.
One afternoon Cindy received a phone call from a prestigious law firm in Los Angeles, California. The firm was offering her a lucrative dream position as a senior corporate attorney.
Cindy had been very content at the firm where she was employed. However, she had high goals of advancing and working her way up the corporate ladder, without realizing the strain and pressure it would put on her relationship with Andrew.
Cindy was seriously considering accepting the position.
Breaking the news
Andrew, who was happy in the motor city and looking forward to married life with Cindy, had no thought or desire to relocate.
Cindy, knowing that she had to tell the news to Andrew, asked to meet with him that afternoon. Andrews agreed, and they met at a local restaurant.
After the meal, Cindy shared with Andrew the news about her job offer, and he was excited for her. Cindy added and said, “The job is located in Los Angeles, California.”
Andrew was speechless. The thought of Cindy leaving Detroit and having a long-distance relationship was not in his plan. Andrew asked her, “What about our relationship and marriage plans?”
Cindy replied, “We can still date from afar and then set a wedding date when I get established and settled in.” This was a dream come true opportunity for Cindy but a serious issue for Andrew. Cindy told Andrew that night that she was going to accept the offer.
The long-distance relationship
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After a few months of their long-distance relationship had gone by. They would call each other every day, and they would take turns visiting one another twice a month.
Despite his feelings against leaving Detroit and having a long-distance relationship, he realized that his love for her was much more significant.
During their separation, there were times of stress, disappointment, and loneliness, even though they conversed daily by virtual connection and phone. Cindy loved her job, but she really missed being with Andrew the way she was accustomed.
Cindy often thanked Andrew for his love, sacrifice, and patience during their time apart.
She knew that this was not the way he wanted their relationship to mature. Cindy knew the only thing that could make this relationship work was real true love.
Finally, when they met…
Andrew was scheduled to arrive later that day for a visit, and they both were so excited.
They then took an afternoon walk, and Cindy said to Andrew, “The love that you have shown to me has convinced me that I am in love with you, and I want you in my life forever, and we can make this work.”
Andrew waited for a crowd to be nearby and asked for their attention and reached for Cindy’s hand and knelt down and proposed to her.
She cried and immediately accepted. The crowd cheered.
Long-distance relationships can work if true love is the main ingredient.
Moreover, a long-distance relationship entails a lot of positives that can benefit your relationship in the long run.
Some tools to help guide your long-distance relationships are commitment, faithfulness, honesty, regular communication, boundaries, paying attention, and addressing any red flags that may occur and sacrifice.